Thoughts about money.
As a young woman I thought, if I just worked enough hours, I would make enough money to be content, and I would eventually be successful. Then I started dating Pete. And he had such a different approach to money and work. He didn’t want to work a lot of hours. In fact, he wanted to work as few hours as possible. But he wanted to get paid really well for that time. It seems so obvious. But to be honest, I had never conceptualized work and success in that way. I thought the more hours I worked, the HARDER I was working. And working HARD meant forward progression. I didn’t quite understand the concept of working smart. It still blows my mind that it’s possible to create a business where the amount of time you work has no direct correlation to the number of sales you close or the amount of revenue you generate.
My friend Heidi is running a Money Mindset Challenge this week. I've been watching her Facebook Lives and doing the nightly homework assignments (along with many of the Work Sesh Women). Yesterday we did a visualization exercise where we felt into the number we wanted to make this year -- sensing what number we’d be excited about. Then we visualized that it was the last day of 2018 and we had reached that number. What did we feel like? What did our living space look like? How did we carry ourselves differently? What did our team look like?
Predictably, I began to imagine a eastside bungalow designed with the help of my friend Alice, filled with art and burning candles and a pair of woodblock prints by Block Shop Textiles over the couch. I was wearing Ilana Kohn. My Vespa was parked outside. Isn’t it funny how specific our imagination can be?
I realized that Pete and I had never really talked about finances in this way, so as we were eating dinner I asked him what his ideal number would be and what that would look like for him. We’ve been together for six years, living together for five and a half, and we’ve never really talked about finances like that. At least not framed in that way. It led to a really interesting conversation about values and priorities and hopes and dreams for the future (both distant and not so distant).
I always thought that money mindset visualizations were for the woo-woo, hippy set. But I’m learning so much about myself in this challenge of Heidi’s. So, be it hippy or not, I’ll be watching today’s lesson, doing the little assignment, and chatting with Pete about it over dinner again tonight.
In case you want to join in, here’s the link. I’d be curious to know if it creates spaces for deepening conversations in your lives too.
photograph: Ilene Squires